New Rule!

Full disclosure: I am in an open relationship. I’m very open and honest about this with anyone I meet, obviously, because that’s the whole point of an open relationship. An upside of disclosing this right upfront is that well, obviously honesty is good. Everyone understands the expectations, and nothing is hidden or secretive. A downside that I’ve discovered, however, is that for some reason, it tends to attract a certain type of man. And that type of man is the type that’s in a committed, monogamous relationship.

I honestly don’t know why. I can only theorize that because I have another relationship, they think I’m going to sympathetic to the fact that they do too.

THEY ARE WRONG.

There’s obviously a huuuuuge difference between my partner knowing what I’m doing and being totally cool with it, and cheating on your girlfriend or spouse. HUGE. I don’t think I need to spell that out for anyone, and it often irritates me that they want to conflate the two, as though they’re the same thing.

Anyway, so I tend to get a lot of guys who end up telling me they’re married or they have a girlfriend. And of course, they always have some sort of sob story about why they’re stepping out of their relationships, and it of course always involves the struggles and trials they’re going through, and why it’s justified that they’re garbage human beings, blah blah blah. I don’t even care to list out examples, but generally it revolves around them being too cowardly to end a relationship that isn’t working, and instead do something much worse- lie to their partners to get what they need.

So in light of that, I thought it would be important to add:

Never engage with anyone who is cheating.

My 3 main reasons for this:

• If this is how they treat the person they apparently love, just imagine how they’ll treat you.
• Don’t reward them (with sex) for treating other women like shit.
• Avoid drama at all costs.

The rules have now been updated!

-A