THE RULES

After much discussion, here are the rules we’ve come up with! Note that at this point, we’ve yet to try them out so this is all theoretical, but this is our starting point. Also important to note that we are two straight women, dating men, so any assumptions made or strategies employed are based on that sort of scenario only:

THE CASUAL SEX RULES v.1.0

1. Talk to 2 guys minimum, 4 maximum at a time
   1. If they aren’t working out, cut them off, and bring another one into the rotation. 
2. The VERY SECOND they do something stupid or make you feel shitty in any way, you cut them off.
   1. NO SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF
   2. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
3. Meet as soon as possible.  Within the week is best, maximum within two weeks.  If it doesn’t happen by then, it’s not going to.
   1. It’s ok to ask them out, you don’t have to wait for them to do it.
4. No nudes, no sexting.  This creates only two possible scenarios:
   1. They think sex is then guaranteed or;
   2. They lose interest
5. No chatting/texting all day
   1. Time gate – wait 2-4 hours before responding, and do this from day one
   2. No texting during business hours
   3. No good morning, good night texts 
   4. Do not make yourself available to them whenever they want
6. Go into every date expecting a one time thing only. 
   1. If you get a good vibe and like them, have sex if you want to
      1. No sleepovers
      2. No post-sex snuggling.  Get up, get out.
   2. Don’t ask for a second hangout
   3. Consider it over with and move on
   4. Can send a thanks for a good time text, but that’s IT
7. If you feel that you’re getting emotionally attached/things are getting too intimate, get some distance:
   1. Don’t text for a day or two
   2. Talk to someone new
8. If you fuck up, and you will a few times, you need to bail.  No amount of distance will fix it.
9. Be honest with yourself. 
10. If, for any reason, you cannot follow the rules above you are NOT to engage.